making love….
“often in a relationship there can be a subtle homogenizing force, which is destructive. the irony is that it is usually the difference between people that makes one person attractive to another. consequently, this difference needs to be preserved and nurtured.
love is also a force of light and nurture that liberates you to inhabit to the full your own difference. there should be no imitation of each other; no need to be defensive or protective in each other’s presence. love should encourage and free you fully in your potential.
in order to preserve your own difference in love, you need plenty of room for your soul. it is interesting that in Hebrew one of the original words for salvation is space. if, you were born on a farm, you realize that space is vital, especially when sowing something. if you plant two trees side by side, they will smother each other. that which grows needs space.
kahlil gibran says, “let there be spaces in your togetherness. let the winds of heaven dance between you.” space allows your otherness to find its own rhythm and contour. yeats speaks of “a little space for the rose breath to fill.”
one of the lovely areas of love where space can be rendered beautiful is when two people make love. the one you love is the one to whom you can bring the full array and possibility and delight of your senses in the knowledge that they will be received in welcome and tenderness. since the body is in the soul, the body is illuminated all around with soul-light. it is suffused with a gentle, sacred light. making love with someone should not merely be a physical or mechanical release. it should engage the spiritual depth that awakens when you enter the soul of another person.
the soul of a person is most intimate. you meet a person’s soul before you meet that person’s body. when you meet the soul and body as one, you enter the world of the Other. if a person could bring a gentle and reverent recognition to the depth and beauty of that encounter, it would extend incredible possibilities of delight and ecstasy within lovemaking. it would free in both people this inner wellspring of deeper love. it would reunite them externally with this third force of light, the ancient circle, that actually brings the two souls together in the first place.” – (c) john o’donohue, anam cara
